Ex's, kryptonite to a new relationship (part 1)

Current Song - "Exxes (instrumental)" - The Klasix

This first part is sponsored by - http://thekidampgreen.blogspot.com Well I guess I'll just let out a little rant about a topic that hits home,it's going to be more random than anything, trust me

Anybody that has ever went through a breakup can probably get the drift on what I'm about to speak on. Ugh "ex's" =/ Love em, Hate em, they still were in your life at SOME point in time.

Well, I've been through some rough breakups and all that good/bad stuff, but I always got love for my "ex's". They've helped me grow and mature mentally, something that is NOT guranteed to be a result from everyone you come in contact with. So, you may have had an ex that meant a lot too you and they could have done you wrong right, but didn't you learn from it? Didn't you look back on it and see your faults, even if in large, they weren't yours? You could have been the guilty party in the relationship and you may have knocked over the house of cards. BAM! It all comes crashing down.. Life is SUPPOSED to have its learning experiences, but it seems as though people tend to think that every relationship they're in, is suppose to work. Allow me to introduce reality into this topic..every relationship WON'T work. Hey, you could be one of those "lucky" people and just have that one magical relationship, but for the rest of us "non-magical" people, the shit hits the fan every now and then. Sometimes we can prevent it, sometimes we can't, but it happens to the best of us. That's why you see so many breakup songs, movies, video blogs and people are just crying all over it.

They say the best teacher is experience right? Well why can't you learn from an ex? Even if you hate them, they still added a little bit more common sense into your mind. You might even still be cool with them and they could be a great friend, but in most situations, that isn't the case. Break ups can be quite the monster, can't they? Haha, it's ridiculous how nasty they can get (pause). People's hearts get ripped out of their chests for a brief period in time, only to find out that they had been wasting their time. Then, you have to deal with the nasty breakup spilling over into your new relationship, which is NEVER good. Your new girl/new guy, does not want to hear you whining about your ex, they'll think you're going to be putting them in comparison. It's good to speak on the breakups and ex's, but not good to dwell on them. When you allow yourself to do that, you're allowing that bad experience veil your future with the new person, whether you like it or not. Maybe you're wondering if your ex is "alright" or if they found someone "better" than you, but the key once again, is LEARNING.

Ex's can torment people's minds pretty bad and only time can heal the heart. It could make you zone out to Al Green for a couple of hours and shed quite a few tears, letting tissue become your bestfriend for a period haha. Yes, it happens to dudes too...Dude's dwell on it more than you would think, even the egotistical ones. Trust me, I've seen first hand what a breakup can do to a guy or girl and it's never good on either side, despite what common perceptions would say. Take some time out of your life today and think about an "ex", even if it makes you shutter, and figure out what they helped you learn about yourself or life in general. For now, we can just say that the ex was some little sidenote that you had tried to whiteout, but the bottle went empty when you got halfway across the name.. "Alici-- cot damn I'm out of white out!" Lol, grow from that experience, use those mistakes to grant your mind the opportunity to avoid them in the future. As I continue to write more parts to this series increases, the deeper I'll get. Break out the tissues, you might just need them haha =/

"Everything she'd do, take a toll on my brain"

..Until we meet again

- That Gentleman

Lack of Communication In Dating

What's up people, That Gentleman checking in once again to get a tiny rant off, well BIG rant off my chest. So, as I sit here listening to music, I'm just thinking about all of the relationships where communication is little to nonexistent. Too often, you see relationships that could be mended or ended mutually with the help of a LITTLE communication, but that's SO above people these days because they, "can have another you in a minute". That's a terrible line in the first place because it shows how much importance someone puts on their relationship, but i DIGRESS. Many relationships include people that have no clue as to where their significant other is emotionally and it's quite evident by their actions, only furthering the problem. When people look back on relationships, they always say, "I wish I would've told them how I felt", "I wish I could've said this (or that)".. Communication, once again.

My own personal story has many stops in it and the reason I kept it moving at each one of those stops was because of that "lack in communication", part of it even on my part. Yeah, I can give advice, but I can't take my own, the usual irony.. right?

People in today's society are so engaged in the physical part of a relationship, that it becomes the basis for their emotions and communication as a whole. Sex can be very detrimental to a relationship, but it can also be beneficial, IF in moderation... Isn't it funny how in so many relationships, they can have great sex, but can't speak openly about their emotions or even sex with each other?! SMH Today, sex is so over-abused that it's second nature to have sex then talk after haha, sounds usual right? But why does that seem so normal? That's because it has become socially acceptable to basically start a relationship based off a sexual encounter and I believe it is quite the tale of how our common male-female reactions work.Now I'm not saying that you can't enjoy sex, but if you sex then talk, you're going be bored out of your mind because you're moving in reverse..and a car always moves slower in reverse. You can't expect to have great sex and then have great convo, that only happens in our "perfect world", but if you have great convo, then great sex, then you really have something. Once again I'll reiterate this, SEX iS A BONUS, NOT A BASIS.

Men believe that there aren't any good women out there, who aren't whorish,kind of like an urban myth.. And women believe that there aren't any good men out there who won't treat them like another usual jumpoff or even be fun to kick it with. Funny but sad at the same time because there is hope out there, it's just not readily seen, due to that "lack in communication".

You want him to listen and he wants you to listen, but there's one problem, you both aren't voicing yourselves as you should be. Maybe you should take the time to sit and have a thorough conversation, just maybe. You may have been in a relationship and it ended suddenly off one misunderstanding, or it may not even have gotten there yet before it all came crashing down and your little bubble of love, burst right before your eyes. We must learn to listen to on a deeper level, not just hearing "blah blah blah," but the actual words that are spoken the fragile place, known as the heart.

So you think I'm saying that the answer to all your problems is communication, haha you and I can only wish, but it IS a beginning I assure you. I have plenty more to say, but I don't wanna be too lengthy so stay tuned. We all have a lot to learn and there's no instructions, only a script, write your own story.

The problem with communication ... is the illusion that it has been accomplished.

- That Gentleman